I'm definitely gonna get yelled at for this one.

I hate the saying "nobody will/can love you until you love yourself."

To some degree, maybe this is true. More-so in the sense of projecting confidence in the initial "attract-a-suitor" phase. There's no denying that confidence is sexy. Confidence draws 'em in. However, I do think someone can love you even if you don't necessarily think you're the best thing since sliced bread or sour cream n onion chips. At least that's what I hope for.

But...Im wondering if it's sustainable.  I wonder if occasional, lets say... "psychological stress", downtrodden behavior, or perhaps the need (or projected need) to be supported and told you're awesome can take a toll on a relationship --or more specifically, a [the other] person. Do you think this wears things, or people, thin? Does it ruin things?

I think it's hard for someone to take on another person's burden while carrying their own. And I don't necessarily know if they should have to, even if infrequently.

..........meh.

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Eventually you'll get tired of trying to help me. It'll be taxing and hold-backy and fruitless and will come down to me needing to "work on myself" and that will be that.

I don't say this because I *actually* believe it. This is reductive and awful and not how I feel. I say this because I'm a pessimist (and being dramatic in my mind?). And I'm sometimes afraid of fucking things up b/c I [occasionally] don't have my shit together.

yay!